Friday, August 25, 2006

Visualizing Disaster or Fertility?


I just read this odd scrap--which was sent to me out of nowhere--about how visualizing disaster can cause disaster, sort of like you invited good/bad into life depending on your thoughts.

I'm not saying I invited my kid's cancer by being a worrying mother. But I DO think anxious thoughts ("What if I have to go to the bathroom when I'm up on stage during during my reading?"), that quickly become self fulfilling prophesies. Likely, they are a purely psychosomatic reaction. But hey, the mind-body connection is REAL.

The name of this blog caught my eye, and here's the quote of the day.

Peace of Rice: "Quote:

“Watch your thoughts; they become your words. Watch your words; they become your actions. Watch your actions; they become your habits. Watch your habits, they become your character. Watch your character for it will become your destiny.”


- Rabbi Hillel"

p.s. I've also gotten an email from a woman who said she peacefully visualized what life could be like with her future children. Instead of the usual, Don't even think about it, you'll jinx it!! What if I never HAVE a baby? mania, she would actually look at baby clothes and think, Hm, that'll look cute on my baby.

I wonder if there's any difference in the outcomes thinking pleasant thoughts versus disastrous ones? at the very least, what's the HARM in thinking happy thoughts? Need to work on my need to always be disaster-prepared...

8 comments:

LSG said...

Hi Marie,

I've been reading your blog for a while now, and I wanted to say how much I enjoy it. I am on the TTC journey (and have been for a long while.) My husband and I are trying to use natural means to heal ourselves from all of our previous "not-quite-green-enough" lifestyle.

There is another website I monitor that has really helped with my visualizations and keeping my attitude positive. http://www.fertileheart.com/

It's run by the author of the book Inconceivable, Julia Indichova. Many of the ladies who post there are trying to "be green." [I'm pretty green, but I don't think I'm quite as green as you yet. :)] They also post a lot about how the techniques they learn there (diet, visualizations, etc) have helped their attitudes and lives.

Anyway, I find that the Fertile Heart community and your blog really jive well for me, so I thought they might for others as well. (I plan to post your link there as well.) I look forward to reading more of your posts!

LSG

Green Fertility Marie said...

Hi LSG,

Thank you so much for your kind words! Someone told me to read "Inconceivable," and hopefully someday I will. Thanks for letting others know about Green Fertility--cool!

Sending good ttc vibes your way...

marie

Anonymous said...

Hi Marie,

I want to offer my thanks for you blog as well. When conceiving started to become difficult for me, I spent a lot of time being angry about people's unkind words, lack of control, and etc. I also spent a lot of time on infertility blogs. While these infertility blogs helped me know that I wasn't alone, they didn't help my anger. But your site has offered something different, funny, proactive. Thanks!

I think this mind/body connection is real and it is something that I am trying to work on, and is much harder for me than simply changing my diet. I'm also always preparing for disaster and preparing for failure. In some way I guess that feels safe, but I don't think it's been helpful. So this is the next step I have to take. To fearlessly want and believe in something. Yikes! But I'm gonna try...

And thanks Isg, I'll check out Fertile Heart.

Ali

Green Fertility Marie said...

Thanks, Ali! I posted the review of Getting Preg Over 40--this woman sure knew how to go out and get what she wants. On a side note, I participating in this anthology of fiction writers that's edited by this woman who is psychic. She, too, totally believes (and this was talking about an entirely different subject, i.e., the book) that you can invite the positive into your live. Hey, she got the book a famous agent...she's obviously very psychically confident.

Life is, when you get down to it, short, and I think **you** deserve to enjoy happy thoughts and invite that little spirit into your life! Yeah!!!!

xo,
ml

Anonymous said...

Hi Marie, Hi LSG,

Just a little update - although I know this is an older post. LSG, I really like the website that you linked to - fertileheart - this is just the kind of support I need as the "staying positive" aspect of all this is difficult for me. I've registered for a workshop in Woodstock for next week.

Thanks!

Ali

Green Fertility Marie said...

Hi Ali (and LSG!),

I'm so glad you're doing that. If you find it helpful, informative, whatever IN ANY WAY let me know. Actually, any perceptions/perspectives of youyr would be very valuable--would you like to guest blog on Green Fertility? I'm sure lots of people would be very interested. And I get to put up my feet for a day. haha.

I, too, went to FertileHeart, and Julie is sending me a review copy of INCONCEIVABLE, and hopefully the review will follow.

Anonymous said...

Hi Marie,

Sure, I'd love to share my experiences about the workshop! My husband will also be going, and I'm very excited that we will be doing something together regarding this whole emotional process.

Ali

Green Fertility Marie said...

Ali,

Hope oyu guys have a great time, and we'll be here when you get back :)